“We Laugh, We Love”: Ryan Reynolds Shares the Secret Behind His Marriage Goals

Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively have long been considered one of Hollywood’s golden couples. After a decade of marriage and four children, their relationship remains strong—a rarity in an industry often marked by fleeting romances. Recently, Reynolds opened up about the “secret sauce” behind their successful marriage in an interview with People, providing a rare glimpse into how he and Lively have built their enduring partnership.

Rooting for Each Other: The Foundation of Their Marriage

In the interview, Reynolds compared his marriage to his friendship with long-time collaborator Hugh Jackman. “I think the secret sauce to a long-lasting Hollywood friendship is not too dissimilar to having a partner or a marriage,” he said.

The Deadpool actor explained that his unwavering support for Lively is one of the reasons their bond is so strong. “I am genuinely rooting for you, all the time. I want you to win. It’s the same way I feel about Blake. As I’m rooting for her, I know she’s rooting for me, and it’s why we’re so connected.”

This mutual support has been a cornerstone of their relationship, helping them navigate the challenges of their careers and personal lives while remaining deeply connected.

Parenting and Mental Health: Building Resilience Together

Reynolds also touched on how parenting has impacted his mental health, a topic he’s been open about in the past. He and Lively share four children: James (9), Ines (7), Betty (4), and a 1-year-old whose name they’ve kept private.

When asked by Jackman about the relationship between his anxiety and fatherhood, Reynolds shared that being a parent has shifted his focus away from himself and onto his children.

“Now, I love that I have anxiety, I love that I’ve had anxiety,” Reynolds said. “Because when I see my kids experiencing some of that, which is probably genetic, I know how to address it in a way that is compassionate, that actually allows them to feel seen. I know that I can’t just fix it. And I can communicate all that stuff to them and with them. I’m always grateful for it.”

Reynolds highlighted how his own experiences with anxiety have equipped him to parent in a way that is empathetic and understanding, helping him strengthen his family’s emotional resilience.

Balancing Careers and Family Life

Another major factor in Reynolds and Lively’s marital success is their commitment to prioritizing their personal lives over their professional ones. Lively previously revealed on Substack’s Further Ado that the couple made a rule early on in their relationship not to work at the same time.

“When Ryan and I got together, we made a rule not to work at the same time so that we could always prioritize our personal life,” Lively said. “That takes working really hard when we’re not [working]. Just like financial planning and sustaining that, it takes balance.”

This strategy allows one of them to be present with their children while the other is working, creating stability in their family dynamic despite their demanding careers.

Blake and Ryan: A Team Effort

Lively has also spoken about how their shared sense of humor and ability to keep things light contribute to their successful marriage. The couple is known for playfully trolling each other on social media, a reflection of their close bond and mutual respect.

Their public displays of humor and affection give fans a glimpse into their dynamic, but their private commitment to communication, compromise, and shared goals is what truly sustains their relationship.

Why Their Love Story Inspires Fans

Reynolds and Lively’s marriage offers a refreshing example of how partnerships can thrive in the spotlight. Their ability to balance work, family, and their personal connection resonates with fans, making them one of Hollywood’s most beloved couples.

By rooting for each other, addressing challenges with empathy, and maintaining a focus on their family, they’ve built a relationship that defies Hollywood’s odds—and continues to inspire others.

As Reynolds said, “It’s about showing up for each other, always.” And for these two, it seems to be a winning formula.